There are people with real issues who just need someone to vent to. It may even come out as complaining but that’s not something they do all the time. Hey, I’m a good listener and I don’t mind listening to folks like that. We’re probably all guilty of complaining at some time in our lives. But there are some folks who live a life of complaining.
A preacher told a story of A man who decided to join a monastery and become a monk and he had to take vow of silence. At the end of each year, he could appear before the head monk and say two words. After being silent for an entire year, he finally was allowed to speak. He appeared before the head monk, the abbot and asked if he had anything to say. So, he said, “Bed’s hard.” Another year went by, and he appeared before the abbot again. Once again, the abbot asked him,” What would you like to say?" The man said, "Food's cold.” For two years he only uttered those four words. Well, another year went by, and the man again appeared before the abbot. Just like before, the abbot asked him, "What do you want to say?" The man said, "I quit.” The abbot replied, "It is no wonder! All you have done is complain since you got here!"
Our text from Philippians 2 tells us in another version, "Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people.”
I have dealt with all kinds of people over the years and I can assure you that complaining, and bickering will hinder you in following the Lord. I understand that there will be times when we must confront one another, and that’s never pleasant. But if you enjoy confrontation, then something is wrong. I’ve known some people who just want to fight. They are always upset with someone or something. When I was pastoring, those kinds of people kept me busy and deprived me of a lot of sleep. The problem with those kind of people is they can't keep it to themselves. They are always stirring up others. That is no way to live the Christian life plus it can destroy a church. I realize that there are legitimate complaints even in churches. But stirring up others is not the way to handle them.
1 Corinthians 13 is what we call the “love chapter.” In that chapter, it tells us that "Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." I realize that we can’t see and know another person’s heart, but we can choose whether we want to use our mouths to be a blesser or blaster! Let’s choose to be blessers! God Bless!!