One Step at a Time

By: Woody Godbey

This morning I was going to talk about some things that accompanies depression but I will wait and do that on Wednesday. Let me give you just a couple of things you need to do to get started.

I always tell those I am counseling to try one step at a time. Granted, it seems impossible. How can someone live without feelings? Without them you have no drive, no motivation. Could you imagine walking without any feeling in your legs? It would be impossible.

Or would it? Perhaps you could walk if you practiced in front of a large mirror and watched your legs moving. One step, wobble, another step. It would all be very mechanical, but it could be done.

People have learned to walk in the midst of depression. It doesn't seem natural, though other people won't notice either the awkwardness or the heroism involved. The trek begins with one step, then another. Remember, you are not alone. Many people have taken this journey ahead of you.

As you walk, you will find that it is necessary to remember to use every resource you have ever learned about persevering through hardship. It will involve lots of moment by moment choices: 1) take one minute at a time, 2) read one short Bible passage, 3) try to care about someone else, 4) ask someone how they are doing, and so on. Yes, I know what I'm saying and I realize how hard and impossible it seems but it can be done. Don't try too much at one time.

You will need to do this with your relationships, too. When you have no feelings, how to love must be redefined. Love, for you, must become an active commitment to patience and kindness. People reading this who have never experienced depression have no clue what I'm talking about. But you who have, understand the "no feeling" syndrome that one goes through. I hope and pray this is encouraging someone to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. God Bless!