Unconditional Love

By: Woody Godbey

1 John 4:7-8 tells us to love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. Those verses are packed with a powerful message.

I have counseled with couples in the past where one or both would say, “We just fell out of love with each other”? When will people ever learn that lasting love is not a condition people fall in and out of, depending on the circumstances. A person may fall in love, but it’s not true love until a commitment is made.

The kind of love that makes a marriage work is sustained by God when we commit to keeping love alive and growing deeper. That takes having the love of God in us, and it takes prayer. Because on those days when you don’t feel love—and even the greatest loving couples have times when they don’t feel love—you still have to show love. True love is not what you feel every moment of every day anyway; it’s what you commit to, and what you seek God for more of than you have on your own. God’s love is great and unconditional and unfailing. God’s love keeps a marriage together when our own love fails. It's real, true commitment that is missing in marriages today.

People who know the Lord have the distinct advantage of being able to love our spouse at all times—even when we don’t feel like it—because we are born of the God of love and His Holy Spirit of love resides within us. God’s unconditional and unfailing love can override our feeble and fickle love—the love we can fall in and out of if something doesn’t go the way we want. The love of God is fresh in you every day when you walk with Him. He can stir love in you that you didn’t know you were capable of having. And His love in you will manifest through you at times when your human love loses strength.

Forty-three and a half years ago I made a commitment to my wife and our love for one another is greater today than ever before. The reason why, our love for God is greater and it continues to grow. The key to a successful marriage is staying true to God. If you stay true to Him, you will stay true to your commitment! The sad part is that many times in a marriage only one spouse makes that true commitment and is hurt because of the their spouses failure to commit and wants out of the marriage. If that's happened to you, always remember, it wasn't God who failed you. It was an uncommitted heart! Love never fails! God Bless!!